Tag: group coaching

  • How to believe in that little idea...

    How to believe in that little idea you have

    How to summon your courage and believe in yourself. Top tips and inspiring community members.

    Posted: 27/09/2023

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    veterinarians, vet nurses, vet techs, employers.

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    Melanie Barham

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    Global content

    How to believe in that "little" idea you have

    Will you believe in yourself?  Will you say your idea out loud?

    When I started writing about non-clinical careers in vet med, it was an idea I kept quiet in my head for a LONG time.  To be honest, I was so shy about the idea, about standing out or being a tall poppy that for a long time I just researched it, getting deep into articles about how to build a website and blog.  Imagine if I had never done anything?  I’d have missed out on a lot of cool things.

    I see this time and time again, where people in our profession have a super idea they are afraid to say out loud, let alone bring it to reality.  Not even letting that idea ever be said aloud.

    Down with that, friends.  

    What a shame it would be to get to the end of your life, career, or year and have never ever taken a chance.  What waste os exceptional brain power- yours!

    Since the days when I couldn’t even say that I wanted to share stories of non-clinical careers, I’ve gained a lot of confidence, a global community of colleagues, and so so much.  

    I LOVE cheerleading people to bring their ideas to light; it brings me so much joy and energy, and I love hearing how people have summoned their courage and done something amazing with their idea.  Most of them, like me, have watched that tiny bit of courage grow into new avenues and opportunities they didn’t even know existed.  

    As a recovering “hide your light under a bush” person who almost didn’t get up the courage to write that first blog, here’s a few top tips I can share if you’re feeling the same way.

    1. Write your idea down
    2. Share your idea with people who deserve to hear it
    3. Take 1 small first step, and then another
    4. Remind yourself of other times you’ve been brave and it’s been ok
    5. Write out the worst case scenario
    6. Watch Ted Lasso (not joking, I love this show)

    If you’re looking for support as a leader or an individual, check out group career coaching in the UK and North America.  We’ve helped people like Emily Singler from Vet Med Baby take her big idea from dream to reality. It makes change possible.  And we’ve got 10 cohorts of success to show it! 

    There’s still time to register for the fall cohort- check it out now HERE!

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  • How to make change easier on yourself

    How to make change easier on yourself

    Here's some top tips from change science (yes, it's a real thing!)

    Posted: 05/09/2023

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    veterinarians, vet nurses, vet techs, employers.

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    Melanie Barham

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    How to make change easier on yourself

    Why is change so hard to make happen?

    I remember how “easy” it was for me to set my mind to applying o vet school.  It was arduous, and hard to study that much, but I did it with relative ease.  Other change like career shifts, changing how you work, bringing new ideas to your team…. so much harder.

    What gives?

    Change science tells us that change is more successful when:

    • You are in a supportive environment
    • You aren’t the only change agent
    • There are others who are going through the same thing
    • You have tools and support to succeed

    Hm, this does sound like I had the ingredients for success in applying to vet school.  Climb Mount Chore Re-evaluation… not so much.  

    Here are some additional top tips for making change easier on yourself from leading change scientists:

    Examine your competing beliefs

    Kegan and Lahey described the Immunity to Change process in their book (which I recommend so much I should be their brand ambassador).  TL;DR version: you might have a goal or change in mind, but you won’t be successful at making it happen if you have a competing belief.

    Willpower alone will not cut it

    The theory of willpower posits that, “I want the change to happen, so I’ll make it happen!”  But there are very few people in the world who actually achieve all their goals on willpower alone (American Psychological Association, 2021).  It is ONE change model, but for some reason, willpower has become an overwhelming, overarching singular theory.  

    Are you ready to make changes?  Is your team or the people around you?

    Evaluating readiness for change is part of the principle used in motivational interviewing (underpinned by the transtheoretical model of change… say that 5 times fast!).  Turns out, there’s at least 5 steps in being ready to really make a lasting change. So, if you are roadblocked, it could be that you (or your team), are stuck at the beginning phases of change, or haven’t made the leap to the next phase.  The good news is that using techniques like coaching can help you understand yourself and what you need to move to the next phase to make change happen.

    Evaluate what you are in control of, and what you’re not

    Often with change, we expect that we can change everything, or if it doesn’t ALL happen the way we want, it was a failure.  The theory of “Circles of Control” is a useful one to help set realistic expectations for success.  There’s a small circle that you can control directly.  There are areas you can influence, and areas you can have concern for also.  Don’t get stuck defining successful change by things you have no control or influence over.   Don’t get defeated by setting goals that you have no control over.  You can’t control if you’ll get hired, but you can control how many jobs you apply for, how much effort you put in, and how you show up for interviews etc.  Own what you can, and let go of the control of the rest.

    (image credit Positive Psychology, 2023)

    Change can feel hard, whether that’s leading the charge for a team, making changes to your career or job, or simply renegotiating your life and work parameters.  You don’t have to go it alone.

    If you’re looking for support as a leader or an individual, check out group career coaching in the UK and North America.  We’ve got all those elements of success included, for good reason.  It makes change possible.  And we’ve got 10 cohorts of success to show it!

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  • When something’s got to change

    When something’s got to change

    If you feel like you're out to sea, flailing about, you're not alone. Here's what to do!

    Posted: 21/08/2023

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    Melanie Barham

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    When something's got to change

    As a mom, professional, and CEO, I’ve felt like I was on the edge of managing way too much many times.  Life can be overwhelming, and I know I’m not alone.

    Honestly, the image I have in my head at these times is a recurring one: me riding a large old fashioned bicycle teetering on the edge of a cliff with a very thin track to stay on, and me merrily cycling along in a straw boater hat with a glib smile on my face yelling, “EVERYTHING IS FINE!”  Yes, like some kind of Mary Poppins meme!

    At those times, I’ve made changes.  Big ones.  (I’m sure you’re not surprised; that image of me on the brink of madness is pretty graphic!)  Maybe you have lives similar times.

    Here’s some of the things I have done when I have felt like “things needed to change around here!”

    I’ve changed jobs.  Got help.  Been blunt.

    If this has ever been you, or if you’re at that breaking point where you feel stuck and unable to continue,  riding a wobbly bicycle on the edge of “this is way too much”…. Stop your scroll.  

    Come back to me.  

    You CAN make changes in your career, your life, your work parameters and home parameters.  

    Is it easy?  Not alone, no.  Making changes is seriously tough when you’re alone.  

    Here’s 5 things that have made change easier for me and many other people in their transitions to different life and work parameters:

    1. Make some breathing room

    Take a break, get your spouse to take the kids somewhere else, cancel everything.  Get yourself some brain space.  Even if it means disappointing someone, they’ll recover.  See what you can remove from your schedule.  Just go for a 10 minute walk, or do a short journalling or meditation session.  

    2. Pad yourself with people who care and who can support you in the way you need right now

    Know that not everyone is able to support you in the way you need, and that is A-ok.  My super blunt and direct friend is NOT who I call when I need a soft hug.  It’s ok if you don’t have anyone to do this, or you don’t feel like you have the right people in your corner. This is why coaches, therapists, and other impartial people can be so helpful.

    3. Get help- turn towards connection, not away

    Reach out to a colleague, mentors, or a coach.  And if you feel that you need additional support or aren’t sure if mental health struggles are at play, please pay a visit to your doctor or health provider.  It’s not weak to ask for help.

    4. Go easy on yourself

    Being at the precipice of change is not easy.  It’s messy, and we rarely do it perfectly.  It’s ok.  Be kind; you’re doing your best.

    5. Really: please go easy on yourself

    Yes I’m saying it twice for those in the back, and because we vet med enthusiasts need this reminder at least twice.  Making a change in how you do vet med is not a failure.  Changing parameters about your life is not embarrassing; it’s a sign of being reflective and making good choices.

     

    Change is hard, especially when your world is moving so fast you can’t even think straight.  This is why VSGD came to be in the first place!  

    And it’s why we firmly believe in offering support through programs like our group coaching program.  We are here for you if you’re ready to make your career more sustainable no matter your role.  Employer, parent, student, job seeker, stuck in chaos professional, or just as a person.   

    If you need support to get to career sustainability and satisfaction, we’re got life boats at the ready!  Group coaching sessions are available in North America and the UK and we have individual coaching sessions as well.  Check it out below, or fill in the survey and book a char to see if it’s right for you.

    It IS important to note that if you are struggling with mental health issues, please visit your doctor or mental health provider.  Coaching is not a substitute for medical care or therapy.  

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